Things We Say in Therapy
The Things We Say in Therapy Podcast explores the everyday patterns, triggers, and quiet truths that shape our mental health. Each episode blends psychology with real-life reflection; unpacking topics like self-sabotage, emotional regulation, people-pleasing, boundaries, and inner criticism. Through simple tools and guided self-inquiry, listeners learn how to understand their reactions, build emotional awareness, and strengthen self-trust. Whether you love psychology, are curious about your own mind or are on a road to self-discovery, this podcast offers a grounded space to feel seen, gain insight, and reflect on things you may never have paused to consider, supporting genuine growth and lasting self-improvement. The Things We Say in Therapy are the reflections we avoid, the patterns we repeat, and the truths that change everything.
Episodes
32 episodes
Why holding people accountable can cost you relationships
What happens when you stop enabling people and start holding them accountable?In Snack Size Deep Dive 10 we explore the uncomfortable truth that emotional honesty and accountability can cost you relationships. When you stop participating...
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Why cringing feels terrible (and what it says about you)
Why do you cringe at things you said years ago?Why do other people’s awkward moments make you physically recoil?Cringing is a self-conscious emotion tied to shame, belonging, and internalised social rules. It’s your nervous system tr...
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Things We Say in Therapy Trailer
Hi, I'm Tash. Welcome to the Things We Say in Therapy Podcast! This podcast is uncomfortable… on purpose.Here, we talk about the honest truths. The thoughts you whisper in therapy but rarely say out loud. The patterns, the tr...
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Am I emotionally dismissive? Signs you might be without realising it
Most people don’t think of themselves as emotionally dismissive.But if emotional conversations make you uncomfortable, overwhelming, or something you instinctively try to shut down, this episode will help you figure out why.In Sna...
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Why you get defensive (and how it's ruining your relationships)
Why do we get defensive during conflict even when we’re self-aware? In Episode 20 of Things We Say in Therapy, we break down defensiveness as a nervous system response rather than a personality flaw, and explore why feedbac...
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Why we self-sabotage peace and keep choosing chaos
Why do some of us keep choosing chaos over calm? In Snack Size Deep Dive 8 we explore why people who grew up in chaotic or emotionally unavailable environments often find drama familiar and peace uncomfortable. Learn how ou...
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Performative empathy: When ‘caring’ is just emotional avoidance
Most people believe they’re empathetic, but real empathy isn’t comfortable or easy.In Episode 19 of Things We Say In Therapy, we unpack performative empathy: the habit of wanting to appear caring, supportive, and emotiona...
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Why you feel competitive with your friends (even when you love them)
In Snack Size Deep Dive 7, we talk about one of the most uncomfortable truths in adult friendships: loving your friends deeply while secretly feeling competitive, jealous, or resentful when they get things you want.This short, snackable ...
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Why you let yourself down but fear letting others down (the psychology of people pleasing)
In Episode 18 of Things We Say in Therapy, we dive into why so many of us tolerate disappointing ourselves but panic at the thought of letting others down. Discover the psychological roots of people pleasing, the impact of childhood co...
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Why you feel safer imagining than in reality (maladaptive daydreaming) | avoidance, escapism
Why does imagining life feel safer than actually living it?In Snack Size Deep Dive 5, we explore maladaptive daydreaming: the habit of retreating into imagined scenarios, worst-case outcomes, or fantasy worlds as a way to cope wit...
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How to make the right decisions when you don’t trust yourself || self-trust, confidence, intuition
Struggling to make decisions? Episode 17 of Things We Say in Therapy breaks down how to choose the right path even when self-doubt, overthinking, and fear of getting it wrong feel overwhelming. We explore the psychology behind decision-making, ...
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How to stop comparing yourself to others (and what it's costing you)
Do you find yourself constantly comparing your life to others? In Episode 5 of Things We Say in Therapy: Snack Size Deep Dives, we explore the hidden cost of comparison and how it quietly affects your confidence, focus, and mental heal...
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Looking good vs. being good: Why needing to appear kind causes harm || accountability, self-Image, people-pleasing
Some people seem kind, caring, and thoughtful...but are they truly good, or just trying to look good? In Episode 16 ofThings We Say In Therapy, we dive into the difference between authentic goodness and performing kindness for appearan...
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Why you can’t stop thinking about someone you hate || rumination, negativity bias & letting go
Why do some people stay stuck in our minds long after they’ve hurt us? In Snack-Size Deep Dive 4 on the Things We Say in Therapy Podcast, we break down the psychology behind rumination, negativity bias, and why hate can feel impossible to let g...
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Self-sacrifice isn’t noble: Why people-pleasing destroys self-respect || Self-abandonment, self-worth, validation-seeking
Many of us were taught that being “selfless” makes us loveable, but when self-sacrifice replaces self-respect, it slowly destroys your mental health.In Episode 5 of Things We Say in Therapy, we explore the psychology behind chroni...
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Why crying feels unsafe: The psychology of emotional suppression || Fear of vulnerability, Childhood conditioning
In this Snack Size Deep Dive, we explore why crying feels dangerous for so many of us. From childhood conditioning and nervous-system responses to identity, shame, and emotional armour, this episode breaks down the real psychology behi...
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How to recognise normalised dysfunction: Signs you're accepting toxic behaviour without realising it
Have you ever left a social gathering feeling drained, anxious, or doubting yourself, and assumed it was normal?In this episode of Things We Say in Therapy, we explore normalised dysfunction: the toxic behaviours we learn to tolerate...
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How to stop overanalysing everything: Why you spiral & how to stop || overthinking, rumination, anxiety, hypervigilence
In this Snack Size Deep Dive, we break down why you overanalyse everything, from replaying conversations to predicting every possible scenario. Overthinking is not a personality flaw; it's a form of hypervigilance rooted in past experien...
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Normal emotion or mental health decline? How to tell the difference || Emotional Discomfort & Regulation, Recovery & Relapse
In this episode of Things We Say in Therapy, we unpack a topic that almost nobody talks about: how to tell the difference between normal human emotion and a genuine mental health decline.After years of struggling with sev...
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Listen to this when you feel ugly || self-worth, beauty standards, body image, inner critic
If you’re struggling with self-esteem, body image, or feeling unattractive, this episode is for you. Feeling ugly or unattractive is one of the most painful and universal experiences, but it doesn’t mean anything about your worth. In this mini ...
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The burnout epidemic: why daily living feels exhausting in 2025 || comparison, fatigue, stress
Has anyone ever told you that it's valid to feel burnt out and exhausted just from existing? Just from daily life? It doesn't require a massive traumatic event or having a full schedule to feel like everything is too much. In this new episode o...
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Stop being afraid of conflict: tell them what you really feel || resentment, emotional maturity, trust, communication
In this episode of Things We Say in Therapy we explore the power of giving and receiving the kind of “bad” feedback that feels uncomfortable but strengthens relationships. We unpack why honest communication matters, how avoiding it fue...
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why therapy feels scary || emotional avoidance, mental health stigma, vulnerability and change
In this episode of Things We Say in Therapy, we explore why so many people avoid healing, even when their mental health struggles affect their daily lives and relationships. From stigma and generational beliefs to fear of vulnerability...
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stop getting offended, literally nothing is personal || ego, detachment, projection, insecurities
In this episode of Things We Say in Therapy, we break down why we get offended and why, in reality, nothing is ever truly personal.We explore the psychology behind taking things personally, how the ego tries to pro...
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unconscious shame and the fear of being seen || self-sabotage, vulnerability, social anxiety
Welcome or welcome back to Things We Say in Therapy! In this episode we are diving into the hidden emotion that we sometimes don't even know we are carrying around with us. It can cause a multitude of other problems including anxiety, depressio...
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